guest blogger: while the happy couple is “playing” in mexico

hello!

when lee anne and john asked me to be a guest blogger i couldn’t figure out for the life of me what i would write about. i have a photoblog but that is a little different from this. ha! let me start with lee anne….i have known her for a little over 2 1/2 years now. i think they have mentioned before that we met serving in africa together. (such a cool way to meet new friends, right?!!) when we came back to america we went our separate ways–lee anne went to orlando and i went back to austin. it was in our separation that we became best bosom friends. 🙂 there are a few things that i love about lee anne: her honesty, her openness, and her willingness to grow. the first time lee anne mentioned her “new friend” john, i could tell there was something special about him. lee anne got a little giggly whenever she talked about him and even though i couldn’t see her face, i knew she was wearing a big smile. john brought a lot of happiness into lee anne’s life. when they started dating/became engaged i was really impressed with how john lead lee anne–especially how he lead her spiritually. it was beautiful to witness john’s love expressed through his actions. he wanted to guard her heart, he wanted to pursue her, and he wanted to love her well. in novemeber i took some engagement photos of them in new york city and at that point john got my official “stamp of approval.” (as if lee anne needed that so late in the game! ha!)

being around the week of the wedding i loved watching lee anne and john’s interactions. i constantly saw this play out: lee anne would get stressed, john would patiently listen, they would hug and things would be hunky dory all over again. i realized that a HUGE reason why their relationship is (and will be) successful is because of their good communication! (get it!) besides that, their central focus is Jesus and i firmly believe that as each of them individually (and as a couple) grow closer to Jesus, the closer they will grow to one another. it’s a beautiful process.

enough writing. here are some shots from the week!

lots of love from a friend of the couple,

caryn

The honeymoon is over (before it began)

Today wasn’t that different than many days for Lee Anne and me. We miscommunicated, there was yelling, hurtful words were shot back and forth and at some point we stopped talking. So many times we have started the day or ended the day like this. Many times the fights start with missing a phone call or being late, other times one of us does something really thoughtless or hurtful – every time we see our parents and past relationships roar to life in the current situation.

Many people have accused us of jumping into marriage without having a full idea of what we are getting into.

We are selfish, arrogant, fearful, prideful and too smart for our own good. These are whole categories of sinfulness that come out in different flavors and styles depending on the circumstance (and the number of times we’ve been around the block).

Love is an action. Love is a choice. And love doesn’t guarantee happiness. In fact love can be the very thing keeping someone from doing the thing that will make them happy.

In America the “pursuit of happiness” is built into our “inalienable rights” and every American feels the effect of happiness being a baseline reality for life. Pursuing what makes me happy has created so many painful experiences for Lee Anne that I can safely say “Being happy can make others sad.”

Jesus hung on a cross with huge nails in his hands and feet. No happiness, only hurt and love.

“For God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten son.”

Understand that God lived in perfect community and relationship with His son from all eternity chose to break that perfection at the cross when He looked at His Son and saw a stranger covered in every sinful thing done by every person, ever.

God loved us, He gave up perfection for us. Jesus loved us, He gave up perfection for us. What was perfect between Father and Son became broken so we could know perfection in Jesus’ healing blood.

So, yes, the honeymoon is over. The honeymoon never really started because we started with brokenness and ended with Jesus. Fully aware of ourselves, fully aware of each other, fully living by His perfection that He gives us for each other.

Many painful days ahead, strange to say 6 days before a wedding. The reality is we will experience a lifetime of pain and hurt, His love is covering us now and will keep us until He comes back to make all things new.

Then the true marriage begins. No honeymoon needed.

(Although, we are still going to Mexico.) 😉