Cloth Diapers and other things dads don’t talk about

Men are comfortable being warriors, providers and even husbands/lovers. But we don’t talk about being dads unless a joke is involved. TV shows such as Home Improvement and even The Cosby Show made men in the father role seem a bit dopey. Example: Mr. Huxtable might have been an MD but he was often bested in a verbal wrestling match with one of his youngest children. All wrapped in humor but the message is clear “Dads aren’t to be honored and followed.”

Well, thanks to a recent comment by one of our readers, I realized that while I do write about being a man and husband my parenting hasn’t gotten much attention here.

You asked for it.

To start I thought I would cover some of the “baby stuff” because we are just now in the toddler stage.

Cloth Diapers. Until we became pregnant, diapers didn’t cross my mind. Just like most people, I assumed that when the baby came you rip open a package of disposable diapers and that’s the end of it. Of course, nothing is that simple. Diapers, like anything we create, must exist after we use them. So landfills get millions of diapers a year and most parents just ignore the fact that someone has to live with that mess. We all get the final effect of water quality being ruined, adding more steps before water is drinkable.

Thinking about all of that there were still moments when cloth diapers seemed like a strange alternative, my goal was to have complete success with elimination communication but that was unrealistic. The amount of laundry and handling dirty diapers weren’t what I dreamed about when we started our baby journey. Still, knowing all the stats of diaper waste kept coming back around and once my wonderful, beautiful wife attended a cloth diaper meet up we were hooked. Lots of support and experience later and cloth diapering is the only way to go.

Makes me smile to know we don’t have to contribute to destroying the planet and we save money every week on diapers. Especially now with Baby Next on the way the money savings becomes a big deal. Of course this isn’t as simple as just using cloth diapers, the water used and other resources do have an impact. The goal for our family is to move closer to have a beneficial impact on the planet we were given.

Parenting is hard work no matter what you choose. Knowing that I am even more convinced that making informed choices that are the best for our family, our community and our planet is not just nice but vital.

Fathers’ Day

I wanted to dedicate a post to my Dad
(Who, despite any and all failures and mistakes, has been an incredible Dad…)
My Dad who has shown me unconditional love that cannot help but to point to my Heavenly Father.
My Dad who has taught me about passion, art, and intellect.
My Dad who has taught me about freedom and independence.
My Dad who has taught me about the world, my Dad who has taught be about truth and friendship.
My Dad who has showed me grace and love abundant. My Dad who challenges and encourages me.
My Dad who’s given me freedom and independence to teach me to be me.
My Dad who’s taught me about identity.

… To my Father in Law
(Who, despite any and all failures and mistakes, has given me an amazing husband…)
Papa Roque who has raised a son who’s passionate about his family.
… Who raised a son that loves making people smile.
Papa Roque who has raised a son who stands up for what he believes in.
… Who raised a son who’s not afraid to show affection.
… Who raised a son that’s always pursuing the best way.

… To my Husband, the soon to be Daddy of our precious growing baby…
(Who, despite any & all failures & mistakes, has been & always grows in being an incredible husband.)
My husband who engages my heart in conversation.
My husband who makes me laugh, and wipes away my tears.
My husband who holds me tightly when he knows I need it, & often just because he wants to.
… Who tells me stories and challenges me in truth and wisdom.
My husband Who shares with me his hopes and dreams.
… Who asks questions and wants to learn.
My husband who cares deeply and loves without holding back.
My husband who shows me daily the ways in which he’ll be an inspiring & incredible father.
… Who knows & speaks the importance of truth and grace in the lives of our children. Continue reading “Fathers’ Day”